Last year I was sitting at a friend’s funeral listening to what the Brother had to say about him. He was talking about how on your grave stone there will two dates with a dash between them. He said it wasn't the dates that would matter, rather than the dash between them. This makes sense of course, but I had never heard someone say it in a way I could relate to it like that. You see all the posters throughout your life telling you to make each day count, to live your life to the fullest, to be the best you can be everyday. Now you can be inundated with little uplifting pictures on facebook, pinterest and twitter. But do you ever think about for more than the 3 seconds it sits on your iphone screen? It was sitting in this funeral I had such a moment of clarity. I have been to many funerals, of older relatives, of friends, of my best friend. My granny often tells me that I have had to experience more than my share of funerals at the age of 24. But his one particular statement hit me so hard I think about it everyday. How are you going to be remembered? What do you want people to think about you? And the big you HOW ARE YOU GOING TO LIVE YOUR DASH?
He said it wasn't the dates that would
matter, rather than the dash between them.
Such a big question, but really every day that you wake up you are living your dash. You are adding another day between the day you were born and the day you will die. I am reading a book and one of the very first sentences is "Everyone on earth is the same, we all want to be happy and eventually we will all die." This is such a blunt statement, so simplistic and true. We all want to be happy, I don't know of anyone who wakes up in the morning and puts their feet on the ground and hopes for a bad day. On the flip side how often does what people will think of you after you die cross your mind?
One of my best friends died when I was 17, being 24 sometimes I have to sit really quietly and think hard about his tone of voice or what he sounded like. While it is heart breaking, I can still remember our stories and our friendship clearly. He lived his dash is such a way that he will always be remembered as a kind, loving, great human being. I doubt though that he woke up everyday of his short 18 year old life wondering what I would think of him after he was gone. His dash was so lively and full that the fact that his dates of life and death were so close makes it almost a little easier. Your dash is your life. What legacy do you want to leave?
My granny is one of the smartest people I know and she has these little sayings that I have learnt to live by. I moved out when I was 18, and I started to dream about what kind of house I would have and how neat it would be. I would go on these crazy cleaning rampages, even if someone was just coming over for coffee. I never wanted anyone to come into my home and see anything out of place. It was important to me.
Over coffee one day my granny said the same thing that it was also so important for her to have her house in tip top shape, and how now looking back it didn't really mean as much. I mean, a friend will love you whether your carpet is vacuumed or not right? Then I thought, as far as my 'dash" went, would I want to be remembered as the lady with the clean house that occasionally had people over, or did I want to be the woman with an open door for friends and loved ones?
Regardless on if I had laundry in the hamper or hadn't been able to dust. It is important to me that my friends and family know I love them and there isn't really a situation in my life where they are not the most important thing. That is my dash. My heart.
Your dash is your life. What
legacy do you want to leave?
"Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring". Proverbs 27:1
When someone passes away and they broadcast it in the news they usually say the name, the job that person had and their latest achievement. I feel like when you go to a funeral of someone you know, someone who isn’t' necessarily famous, it is about how that person lived their whole life. The family they had, the cool things they did, how big their heart was, what they did to affect the lives around them.
Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. James 4: 14
Every day you are living your life you are contributing to your dash, one day you will look back and see your life play back like story, the perfect story of your time of Earth, your dash.
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