When we think about influence, it is actually now a buzzword, where, ‘“I'm an influencer" "I am something that influences something else" and well I can't exactly disagree with that fact... how do I use that influence to influence people with what I want to influence them with?
The above quote is from a friend of mine, Jesse Martineau. He is a bit of a social media junky... or is it a guru? I'll let you be the judge of that. But in all seriousness, he recently released a great video on the idea of influence (which will be shared at the end of this article).
What resonated with me in this video isn't so much the idea of influence, as I suspect you have heard this before, but how he divides influence into how we influence and why we influence. In essence, he is answering the question: Is all influence created equal?
We can use influence to be helpful and empower people. "To help inspire people, to help motivate people, to help even create change, even if it is difficult" as Jesse puts it. But it can also be used for less noble purposes, which look to manipulate, control and destroy creativity. "The other kind, which we are seeing spring up all over the place right now. Rioting, looting, burning buildings. Why? Because I am mad, dang it!"
See, it isn't so much if we influence and that we influence, but how and why we influence that is the deeper question we should be asking ourselves. What motivates us at our core? Is our motivation about empowerment and change or control and manipulation?
I want to inspire you to think, not simply tell you what to think - Dr. Martin Trench
With influence, we can see a contrast between inspiration & empowerment vs control & manipulation. Be it dialogue, leadership or relationships, is our goal for the betterment of those we wish to influence, or the furthering of our desires?
Furthermore, if we want to ultimately see the results we are looking for, we need to have tactics that see real change, not simply tactics that give us the satisfaction of being right or getting our way. The latter is shortsighted, while the former looks to a more creative and hope-filled perspective. Which influence do you wish to see perpetuated?
Check out the video, in its entirety, below:
Drake currently serves as the Editor-In-Chief of boldcupofcoffee.com and the Executive Pastor at gateway.ac as well as an avid speaker, writer and leadership coach/consultant. Drake is passionate about seeing people thrive and come alive. To BELONG, wrestle with what they BELIEVE and BECOME people FULL OF LOVE, FUELLED BY FAITH, and ADDICTED TO HOPE. Drake is also a life learner and loves being challenged to think deeper and grow further. One of his favorite things to do is spend a good amount of time in a good café or coffee shop with a good book or engaging conversation. To be able to share in someone else's journey and experience is always a pleasure and honor. You can also connect with him at your personal page at drakedelongfarmer.com. To read more articles by Drake, simply click here.
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