Listen to the Full Cup Podcast episode with Shirley here - Season 1 Ep. 2
The world has turned upside down. Change has been sudden and traumatic.
Nothing feels familiar. We find ourselves navigating through a "cornerbend" on a steep mountain road. Visibility of what lies ahead is limited by a severe bend in the road. It's more challenging than simply turning a corner and changing direction. It's a disorienting curve that seems to go on without an end of sight. We're forced to slow down and pay careful attention to staying in our lane. To do otherwise can bring dire consequences.
When my son died in 2012, grief pushed me to the brink of what I could bear.
For many, the repercussions of the pandemic have pushed them to the edge.
Loss of a job. Loss of finances. Loss of future plans. Loss of control. Loss of community.
Fear of the future can produce anxiety.
Frustration from losing control can lead to anger.
Futile thoughts can result in apathy.
Fixation on the pain in isolation can cause one to feel abandoned.
After losing my son, I desperately wanted to set the story of my life straight. I didn't sign up for this grief story, but I couldn't fix what had been done.
The reality of the Christian life is that God often writes the story of our lives with grief and loss we cannot resolve, so He alone receives the glory for rescuing us.
If you are in Christ, you have a blessed story - not because of your unique experiences but because your story is included in God's great story.
You can be confident that God wants to be the hero in your story. But your participation is required.
Psalms 50:15 "Honor me by trusting in me in your day of trouble. Cry aloud to me and I will be there to rescue you."
Very often, God sends us a rescue through the empathy and compassion of ordinary people. Affectionately, I call these special people - Hope Heroes.
But each of us own responsibility in navigating our losses.
Over the past seven-plus years, I have come to firmly believe God invites us to take bold steps forward in uncertain times. Often there is only enough light for the next step. In faith, we take that step as we lead with our T.O.E.S.
I'm a simple girl with a need for uncomplicated ideas I can remember. Perhaps this acronym will be helpful for you to recall as well.
T- THANKFUL TRUST
How is it possible to cultivate a heart of thankful trust in God amidst chaos and loss?
1. Worship - Don't let what's wrong with our world keep you from worshiping what's true and good about God. Express through song and prayer your choice to trust Him, and thank Him in advance for what He will do for you.
2. Marinate in God's word to keep your heart tender. Choose one verse of God's many promises. Turn it over and over in your mind as you memorize it and declare it out loud.
Psalms 92:2 "This I declare about the Lord: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; He is my God, and I trust Him."
O - OBEY
Faith isn't measured by our knowledge; it's measured by our obedience.
Grieving losses is a growth opportunity to obey God even when we don't understand His plans.Obeying God, affirming our trust in Him and choosing not to let fear dictate our decisions will be rewarded. Many others will see our obedience of trusting the Lord as a sign pointing to the source of our hope - Jesus Christ.
E- ETERNAL PERSPECTIVE
"Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life." Proverbs 4:23
There is no heartache you can experience that Jesus doesn't understand and will one day make right. When we have a biblical understanding about eternity, today's losses can shake us, but they can's break our spirit. Our minds are better equipped to make good decisions when we have an eternal perspective. Our current situation is not permanent. The best is yet to come!
S- SERVING OTHERS
Maybe it's just me, but my losses can cause me to feel like a failure. How can I possibly serve others when my heart is hurting and I feel insecure?
God reminds us that we are not destined for the sidelines. Grief has not disqualified us from usefulness.
As we participate, our Heavenly Father promises to recycle our pain for His good purpose. Let's not rush past this amazing invitation.
The smallest act of serving others with compassion is better than kind intentions.Take notice of someone who is hurting and offer an encouraging word. Sharing hope is heroic.
Mail a card. Sent a text. Make a call. Unlike the COVID-19 virus, let's choose to make empathy and compassion contagious.
The bravest among us are the brokenhearted who choose to lean into hope, take a step forward and lead with their T.O.E.S.
Are you ready?
I think your days ahead are just about to get better!
Cheering you on,
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Dr. magda czegledi
Listen to the Full Cup Podcast with Dr. Magda here - Season 1 - Ep. 1
While we can’t control many things going on during this outbreak, we can, and need to be intentional about caring for our spirit, soul and body!
Nourish your spirit: be reading the Word, meditating on it, and praying. Consider fellowshipping with other believers in some online form - or just be old-fashioned and phone someone!
It’s critical to think about what we think about, since what we focus on, we amplify!
Rather than watching yet another Youtube video on the pandemic, use the time to write down three things you’re thankful for or meditate on how the Lord has been faithful in your life in the past. Of course, this will take more effort, and may even be difficult – which is why scripture talks about the sacrifice of thanksgiving (Psalm 116:17)
A couple of years ago I found the book "Choosing Gratitude" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss – what an awesome resource! You can find some videos by the author at: https://www.reviveourhearts.com/deeply-rooted/
Don’t fixate on the negative. Limit your time following the news on Social media and TV. Restrict checking for news on the pandemic to once a day.
Find things to laugh about, since scripture tells us “A merry heart does good, like medicine” (Proverbs 17:22). Research funny animal videos on YouTube, enjoy Christian comedians, find some humor in the day-to-day.
Being at home does not have to be boring! Consider changing your perspective to, “Now I can do what I’ve wished I had time for.”
Lastly, don’t forget to care for your body. Exposure to the virus is not the only element – your immune system’s capability of overcoming it is key.
To boost your immunity:
SPECIAL NOTE: What to do with kids at home
First and foremost, kids do best with routines and schedules. Without the regularity of school, parents will need to create that structure.
Make calendars and daily schedules - and have kids participate in making these so they are invested in the process. Besides having some regular time for learning, get them involved with preparing meals, making a video to send to family or friends, or creating a themed evening (like an indoor campfire evening with skits or singing).
The following are suggestions found on Pinterest of various schedule and routine charts
Printable Daily Schedules on Pinterest
To learn more about Dr. Magda's work please visit https://calvarychapel.ca/ministries/vibrant-life/
Dr. Magda Czegledi has seen depression from every angle: as a clinician during eight years in family practice, as a family member, and as a patient who had chronic, treatment-resistant depression for many years. This combination of experience has given her a passion for helping people overcome depression, as well as a unique perspective for what’s needed for recovery. Magda loves to raise awareness about depression and teach about the importance of lifestyle strategies for long term stability. Her story of recovery since implementing these tools is one that inspires and provides hope.